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3 Month Check-In

Hi Peace Seekers!

We are exactly three months into the new year and it’s time for a quick check-in to see how you’re doing on your goals and if it’s time for some re-adjustments.

I pray that things are going well for you and that Peace is still your top priority.

At the top of the year I set some pretty lofty goals for myself. I am on a mission to achieve Peace in several areas of my life. My strategy plan includes goals for my health, my career, my spirituality and my relationships.

I am happy to report that I am making strides in all areas. So far I’m down 12 lbs. I’m gaining clients in my business, my prayer life is terrific and best of all, I’m getting gold stars for being the “coolest ex ever!” I’m happy to report that I’ve let go of some grudges and sprinkled some forgiveness on a few situations!self-belief

So how’s it going for you. Are you making strides and working toward your goals or are you at a stand still.

If you’re stuck, let me help you get back on track. If you’re really ready to start crushing goals peacefully, contact me today.

704-659-3424 or support@myactionplanforpeace.com

Peace In Action,

Melissa

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The Big Reveal

So here’s a snapshot of my 2017 Vision Station. The upper board is used to illustrate the goals that I want to accomplish in the upcoming year. I prefer words overs pictures so that I am free to imagine myself completing the goal as I see fit. Pictures tend to stifle my creativity and don’t exactly give me the motivation that I need.

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The lower board is my interactive space. This is where I post my objectives, resource list, action plan, focus word and theme song. I also have a folder to capture ideas and notes. In the past I created separate boards for my business and personal goals but my Career Confidence Coach, Kandis Webb helped me to realize that the two should be conjoined. As an entrepreneur, I am the face and brand of my business. It’s only right that I incorporate those terrific, quirky and unique qualities about myself into my business model.

Same goes for you.

So what’s the point of a ‘theme song?” It’s a proven fact that music stimulates the create thinking process. While you’re being magnificent and churning out new ideas, you need a song that resonates with you. I chose 2 for 2017. The song Unfamiliar by Common is awesome. I absolutely love this song. It reminds me to be open and receptive to the unfamiliar because great opportunities, relationships and partnerships often show up when you least expect it. My 2nd song is Location by Khalid. I love, love, love it! That one line when he says, “What’s the Move and I Got You,” reminds me to be spontaneous and open to new adventures.

I chose to tackle my fitness goals first. I was ready and there was no point in putting it off. I began training with @sakinareneefit on December 20th. In two weeks I’ve dropped a pant size and gained lots of energy!

Wanna know what goal I may struggle with a little?

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To get to a state of cool may take me awhile but I’m working on it!  ( don’t judge me)

Now the only thing left for you to do is decide that you’re ready to gain focus, clarity and most of all Peace in manifesting your 2017 goals.

Positioned for Peace: Your Action Plan For A Peaceful Lifestyle in 2017 is available throughout the month of January for your employees, community group, ministry, social club or group of friends. The workshop includes a PowerPoint, worksheets and team building exercises. You provide the location and I’ll provide the expertise.

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I’m ready to share what I know. Are you ready to receive?  Contact me today!

Peace In Action,

Melissa

 

 

 

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When Peace is Your Business

CVAN - Safety, Shelter & Support for Battered Women & Children

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and I am spotlighting the Cabarrus Victims Assistance Network (CVAN) for their work in helping battered women and their children find safety and peace during troubling times.

I first learned about CVAN as a Girl Scout Leader searching for a community service opportunity for my girls. I found a cute little boutique full of women’s clothing and toys that accepted donations from the community. Upon researching this store I discovered their mission. The store was just a means of support for the many programs that CVAN provides and the shelter that it operates.

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CVAN has been in operation since 1982. They provide services such as: a 24-hour hotline, housing, peer counseling, children’s program, formerly battered woman’s advocacy, woman’s jail program, teen program, court advocacy, community education and support groups.

I’ve been connected with CVAN in various capacities for more than 10 years. CVAN is an integral part of Cabarrus County but that reach is nationwide. CVAN has successfully assisted women throughout the United States in finding safety from their abuser.

The following is a list of patterns and behaviors to look for in an abusive mate:

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Signs to look for in your partner:

  • Quick involvement with you
  • Isolates you from others
  • Blames others for their problems
  • Gets upset easily
  • Controlling behavior
  • Explains how you are always wrong
  • Speaks disrespectfully of women
  • Says hurtful things to you
  • Expects you to be perfect
  • Threatens you
  • Hits, chokes or shoves you
  • Cruel to children and/or animals
  • Inappropriate sexual requests

In the United States a woman is abused every 15 seconds.

If you or someone that you know is a victim of Domestic Violence, there is confidential help for you. You can speak with a representative at the following number:                     (704) 788-2826.

Please check out CVAN’s website at:www.cvan.org for more information. Image result for domestic violence awareness

Peace In Action,

Melissa

 

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And Finally…

Positioned For Peace

There are three remaining steps to being an effective Peacemaker. Let’s do a quick recap before I give you the remaining three.

  1. Be Informed
  2. Build Trust
  3. Build Your Tribe
  4. Gather Evidence
  5. Generate Solutions
  6. Solicit Feedback

AND FINALLY

7. Finalize Your Plan

8. Take Action    &

9. Remain Consistent

There are many moving parts to being to being an effective, peace oriented leader.

I hope that you’ve found this list to be informative and necessary as you go about the work of building trust and community, within your organization.

If you need help, I am just a phone call or email away. I would love to work with you and provide guidance as you implement your peacebuilding plan.

“A team doesn’t win the championship if its players are working from different agendas.”

Peace In Action,

Melissa

 

 

 

 

 

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Solicit Feedback

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6. Solicit Feedback

Image result for be open to receive feedbackA skilled Peacemaker values and welcomes feedback from others. This simple act of humility builds trust and transparency amongst everyone involved. At this stage in the process, hopefully you realize that your work is not for you. You are simply providing a service to a group that has been marginalized or disenfranchised. This is a very important step in the peace making process and it will greatly affect your final action plan for change.

2 Ways to Solicit Feedback:

  1. Conduct periodic meetings and interviews to gather how those affected are responding to suggested solutions.
  2. Organize a focus group to observe suggested solutions in action. Gather feedback and make changes accordingly.

The Benefits of Soliciting Feedback:

Soliciting feedback connects those affected by the crisis to the solution. It builds trust and dependency to ensure full effort in achieving the stated goals. “It’s one thing to communicate to people because you believe you have something of value to say. It’s another to communicate with people because you believe they have value.”

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The Circle of Admiration

MAYAladies_1024x1024When it comes to achieving goals, the first 21 days are vital. It’s in this 3 week time period that you create a routine, adjust to the new self-imposed requirements and train your mind to accept this new behavior. Studies show that if you can make it through this introductory period, you have a better chance of reaching the finish line.

One way of holding yourself accountable is to create a Circle of Admiration. This can be done by studying the lives and accomplishments of various people in history and using their stories as a way of motivating you to reach those goals that you set for yourself.

Think of it as research.

Whether you’re a student, a corporate climber or an entrepreneur, it’s important to pay attention to those who have taken similar paths as yours.

The intention is not to copy what they’ve done but to make you more aware that there is more than one way to reach a goal.

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The following techniques can be used to create your personal Circle of Admiration:

  1. Research top influencers in your areas of interest. Priscilla Shirer is a great friend of mine, in my mind. I love her books and bible studies. I admire the way that she boldly teaches the word of God in a relatable and easy to follow format. Her life and commitment to live out her dreams is a big motivator for me.
  2. Turn to your community. Role Models and Mentors can be found in your church, at work or in community groups. Some of the greatest community activists are found in local barber and beauty shops. It’s okay to strike up a conversation and get to know who’s next to you in the shopping aisle.
  3. If all else fails virtual is an option. With the popularity of social media, you can take advantage of virtual mentorship. LinkedIn, Facebook and Instagram can give you insight into the professions, academics and hobbies of highly accomplished people.

As always, SUGA Wellness Boutique, LLC is here to give you tips and advice for living a Peaceful and more fulfilled life.

If you would like to talk one on one, contact me for a complimentary discovery call at: sugawellnessboutique@gmail.com

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SUGA Wellness Boutique, LLC is currently accepting resumes for a Marketing Analyst Intern. Please see the job description at:www.sugawellnessboutique.com and send us your resume if interested!

Find Peace and Be Well.

 

 

 

 

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When The Silence Becomes Too Loud

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In life we experience moments of silence that always seem to last too long. Those times when we’re waiting on God to move in our life and we’re somewhere between Provision and Promise. The silence of uncertainty can get kind of loud!

Are you familiar with LOUD SILENCE?

If you’re familiar with worry, fear, distress or frustration, you know exactly what I’m referring to.

LOUD SILENCE is the extreme opposite of PEACE.

It’s important to recognize the symptoms of Loud Silence before they invade your space and wreck your Peace.

Today I’m giving you three simple action steps to take for reestablishing disrupted peace.
1. Check your perspective: are you viewing the situation from a limited point of view? Even if things aren’t working out how you planned, are you mature enough to understand that your situation will work out exactly how it should.
2. Speak life: always know that your reality is shaped by the words that you speak. You have the power to create love, demolish strongholds and change your mindset simply by speaking words of encouragement and positivity.
3. Lean on Friends: allow those who love you to encourage you. Spend time with family and friends, laugh and laugh some more and wake up each day looking forward to creating new memories.

Find Peace and Be Well,
SuGa

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Tip# 17 Consistently Pray

Good Morning Peace Makers! It’s day 17 of our #loveme2Peace Campaign. I have to tell you, this journey has been really interesting for me. Yes, I’m here each day offering tips and advice on how to attract more Peace in your life through Self-Love and Self Care but each day as I share these tips with you, I am challenged to intentionally follow my own advice as well. It’s funny how we are constantly tested in the things that we teach.

I want to circle back for a minute and elaborate on yesterday’s tip: Know When to Be Silent. I work up bright and early, ready to share an inspiring post with you but for whatever reason, God wouldn’t allow it. For me, yesterday was a day of quietness and observation. I had several meetings to attend, I had lunch with a friend but for the most part, it was a day of silence. My personal peace journey often includes times like this, times when I need to sit still, be quiet and hear from God. It’s in those quiet times when I receive direction, guidance and support. If we’re constantly busy or voicing our own opinions, we don’t leave room for God to speak to us.

Let’s jump to today’s tip: “Take Time to Pray” 

How many of you saw the movie War Room, which was produced by The Kendrick Brothers? I’ve followed their work for years and I love their movies. Yesterday on their Facebook Page, the following post appeared. “Praying releases the problem and the outcome into God’s hands. It is the antidote for anxiety. It’s the way to effectively hand over the situation to God.”-This Means War

Take Time to Pray. God is extending his hand to receive your fears and concerns and replace them with his love and limitless blessings. Trust him with your troubles.

Find Peace and Be Well

Day 17 Take Time to Pray

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Tip #11 Let Go of the Extra Baggage

It’s Friday Peace Makers! This week has surely rolled by fast. Once again the weekend is upon us and we are in Day 11 of our #loveme2Peace Campaign. You have a few days to unwind and take it easy.

In my area, the weather is going to be nice with above average temperatures. This is the perfect opportunity to get outside, take a walk and just breathe. I plan to have a garage sale. My baby Mansion is officially starting to feel like a one room Condo. My stuff has stuff and it’s a lot to deal with it.

Many times in life we begin to accumulate things without keeping an accurate inventory list. I’m not referring to only material things, physical and emotional things come into play as well. Have you found yourself picking up extra weight over the past few years or maybe even picking up the judgments and opinions that others have about you? It’s not uncommon to allow these things to take up space in your life. So here’s today’s tip is:

“Let Go of the Extra Baggage.”

When you’re packing for a trip it’s always good to pack what you need and a little more just in case of emergency. But when your little more turns into additional carry-ons and totes, you’re going to have trouble lugging all of that around with you. The same is true for our personal lives. If we’re carrying around hurt and shame from things that we’ve dealt with in the past, we can’t successful navigate through life. Sometimes you just have to let go and trust that things will be better on the other side of your pain. My challenge to you today is to find 2 items that you haven’t used in a very long time. Donate them to a local charity, re-gift them to someone who needs an “It’s Friday” gift or put them on E-bay and make some extra cash. After you done this send me an email (sugawellnessboutique@gmail.com) and let me know how it felt.

In your quest to let go, I have the perfect scripture to help support you in releasing those physical and emotional weights. “Turn your burdens over to the LORD, and he will take care of you. He will never let the righteous person stumble.”  This particular wording comes from the God’s Word Translation of the Bible.

Find Peace and Be Well!

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Tip #6 Set Your Heart Toward Peace

Good Morning Peace Seekers! Day 6 of our #loveme2peace campaign and I am so excited about the wonderful feedback that I’ve been receiving. Thank you all for reading the posts, being engaged and sharing the content with your family and friends. By the time we finish this campaign you will have a huge PEACEBOOK to refer to for proven strategies and techniques on attracting more peace into your life.

Today I want to focus on the following scripture: 1 Kings 8:18 “However, the Lord said to my father David, since you had your heart set on building a temple for my name, your intentions were good.”

Today’s tip: “Set your heart toward Peace.” In order to create peace your intentions have to be peaceful. In other words, your thoughts, deeds and actions have to be founded on things that are good and pleasing in God’s eyes. You can’t intentionally do wrong to others or have malicious thoughts and expect your life to be blessed. Life doesn’t work that way. Start each day of the week with positive affirmations and prayer and then make it a priority to seek peace in every encounter that you have.

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Find Peace and Be Well.