As I scrolled through my Photo Gallery trying to find a picture of me actually resting, there wasn’t one. I made it all the way back to December 2019 before I found this picture. It doesn’t illustrate rest, it illustrates exhaustion.
Yes, I know, there are so many resources available right now to help you become the certified, master of all trades guru, I get it. I almost clicked on the free photography course offered by Cannon ( I still might), but today…I will make REST a priority and I challenge you to do the same.
Most of us have orders to Stay At Homewell into the month of April. The coronavirus is really out here doing the most and in response, we need to do a lot less….togetherness. Social Distancing is the number one method to mitigate the risk of contracting coronavirus. This means you purposely put space (at least 6ft) between you and your co-worker, neighbor, family, yoga instructor, preacher, teacher and everyone else.
Depeding on your personality type, this can become a real probem, real quick. My goal is to help you keep your Peace of Mind, Body & Spirit by maintaining your wellness.
I pray that everyone is well. It’s been a while since my last check-in, so I wanted to stop in and make sure you’re good. This memo is to inform you that we are officially operating in an online capacity only. With all that is going on with COVID-19, it’s important that we mitigate the risk of exposure and move to online engagement.
Effective immediately, I’ve moved to a strictly online operation. For my personal development clients that I meet with several times a month to work on action plans and develop strategies for various life goals. I am now taking those calls using Zoom and other resources that are available.
For my professional development clients who are starting new businesses, working on their Resume’s and acquiring new skills for a new career. Our meetings are also taking place online utilizing Microsoft Teams to collaborate on ideas and develop Roadmaps to Success.
By changing my method of operation, I am able to assist while being safe. Right now, the safest place for any of us is Home. I ask that you do your part as much as possible to keep yourself and those you love protected. With that being said, I am still accepting new clients. If you have the desire to get started on a new personal or professional journey, let’s create your Peace Map!
I pray you’re day is off to a great start. I’m slowly but surely making my way back to my blog sites and social media pages. I really needed a break. My capacity to process information was exceeded and there was no more room in the inn.
So what happened?
First, my stepfather died. It was unexpected and tragic. I was sad, mad and angry all at the same time. Although I tried my best to be strong and understand that death is a part of life, it became overwhelming. I felt the need to protect the little time I had to myself.
The helicopter crash that Killed Kobe, his daughter Gianna and the other seven beautiful souls further impacted my need to retreat from social media. That story is so heartbreaking.
I’ve been working! Since January 1st I’ve picked up 3 new, paying clients and it feels amazing. I often do things for the sake of helping others but to actually put guidelines in place to reap the financial rewards of a hard days work is completly gratify.
When it comes to social media and the amount of information you can handle, each person is different. Many of my peers jumped on to offer insight and encouragement into the helicopter accident, that’s simply not how God built me or many of us. The truth is the situation is heartbreaking and I needed time to process what occurred. Those of us who’ve lost loved ones can attest to the raw feelings that arise each time a tragedy of this nature occurs.
There are several ways that I could go with this post but I simply want to encourage you to take a break when you need one. You don’t have to always comment or show up. It’s perfectly ok to take time to love on yourself extra hard, especially when tragedy occurs. Always remember, self-care is not selfish, it’s necessary.
I am working with a client who is currently recovering from being a people pleaser. She’s spent many frustrated years trying to live up to the expectations of others by showing up for them when she honestly had nothing left to give. In the end she found out she was never really appreciated. Now I am working with her on an action plan to improve her self-esteem and boost her confidence. I pray you’re never faced with this situation but if you are, I am here to help you.
If you would like to schedule a consultation to discuss what the next chapter of your life looks like both personally and professionally let’s chat!
One of the hardest things people attempt to do during the holiday season is “attempt to remain positive when tensions are high.
One of the most common reasons this issue occurs is because people place themselves under a tremendous amount of pressure to show up and be present when they are feeling disconnected from friends and loved ones. To alleviate these feelings, the answer isn’t always as simple as saying no to an invitation or failing to show up for a gathering. Oftentimes the people who need your presence are the very ones who aggravate you to no end.
With that being said, I’m here to support you. I want to make sure that your energy is high, your vibe is positive, and you are ready to celebrate with those you love.
I’m providing you with 2 quick and easy to follow tips to protect your energy and remain positive during the holiday season.
Create a Visualization Shield. Visualization Shields are used to block out negative energy while allowing positive energy to flow without restriction. Start by taking a few deep breaths and then get perfectly still. Close your eyes and visualize a colorful, vibrant shield of love. In that shield you have peace, protection and amazing vibrancy. Your shield is your safe place that allows you to be present but protected.
Create a Social Wellness Plan. Create a plan that allows you to engage socially but also respects your personal boundaries. A good plan includes a Mission Statement, Established Goals, Executable Objectives, a Realistic Action Plan and a Sustainability Plan. This comprehensive plan is important for maintaining your Peace.
One of the most impactful ways of managing your Peace is to have a well, developed plan. My latest course, Peace by Designis available at my online school, The Design Academy. You can choose between General, VIP or Platinum Access to choose the best option for your needs.
Do you Journal? If not, what’s holding you back and if you do, what keeps you going?
A lot of people journal to release emotion and organize their feelings. To be honest, we’re all out here experiencing about 27 emotions daily. That is quite a ride and it’s tough to manage it all. So, what we’re doing is taking the emotion adding to it our daily responsibilities plus the needs and expectations from others and then attempting to get through the day without a method to release. This is the perfect formula for a mental breakdown.
I get it, we want to appear like we have our stuff together with little resistance, add to that this whole self-care trend of “don’t kill my vibe, “don’t interrupt my peace” and “don’t bother me with that”, this leaves us feeling obligated to hold in our emotions.
I’ve found journaling to be a helpful outlet. During those times when I am overflowing with emotions, both positive and negative, journaling helps me to reflect on events, organize my thoughts, release some pinned up energy and even generate solutions. It’s one of the many tools that can be used to re-direct your energy.
There’s another benefit of journaling that very few people notice. Journaling helps you to identify trends. If you journal often and notice a trend of negative or low-energy words and phrases, it’s safe to say you are probably suffering with Imposter Syndrome, self-sabotage and maybe even low self-esteem. If this is you, it’s time for a change in perspective.
I deal with those feelings too. I doubt my abilities, second guess my capabilities and I will overthink a scenario to the very extreme. It’s quite exhausting but I’ve figured out how to manage those feelings.
If you’ve been a member of the Origins of Peace community for any amount of time, you know that our #1 goal is to empower you to get out here and Impress Yourself. There are two reasons why this is important:
If you don’t impress yourself, no one else will ever stand a chance of impressing you. This is important for business deals, relationships, money goals, all of that. You must set a standard and stick to it. Example, if you want to be in a loving relationship, you must first love yourself. Impress yourself by doing things you enjoy and going to places that make you happy. This produces impression and excitement. It’s mentally stimulating, and it gets you into the habit of Impressing Yourself so that you will know when others are meeting and exceeding your expectations!
A whole lot of time is spent impressing other folks. You impress your boss when you show up for work and do an exceptional job, you impress your kids by showing up for them daily. It’s time to Impress Yourself!
For the month of November, I am challenging you to use journaling as a tool to change your communication message to yourself! There are 30 days in November. I am giving you 1 word each day to use as a prompt. You will reflect on how the word shows up in your life on that day and compose a journal entry. Your entry can be written or a short video that you keep on your phone. The words that I provide to you should evoke feelings of happiness, bravery, calmness, rejuvenation and friendliness.
I would love to know how this challenge goes for you. You can find me on both IG and Facebook at Origins of Peace to get the word for the day.
You can leave a comment one either platform to get the dialogue started.
Oh yea, if you’re not on my email list, you should be. Our next gratitude offering winner will be announced on Monday, November 4th. You must be on the list to get included in the drawing! Visit www.melissaarivers.com to sign up. You can see the prize for Monday’s drawing on my IG page.