What do you need to hear this week, and are you prepared to tell it to yourself?
Sometimes we all need validation and compliments. The problem is, we look to others to provide those things for us instead of affirming ourselves.
As we approach what has been designated as love week, remember to compliment yourself and fill your cup with self-affirming words.
Say to yourself, ” I Am Worthy of Happiness and Love, and I Am Confident Enough to Provide it for Myself!”
However, you choose to articulate your No, rest assured it is a full, complete and empowering answer. No additives or sweeteners are required.
Nah, Nope, Aht Aht or Hell Naw! Whatever vernacular you choose, stand by it.
There are only so many meetings that you can take, a limited number of events that you can attend and a small number of responsibilities that you can give your full attention to.
If peace is what you seek, you have to be available to receive it. Make time for self-preservation and mental rejuvenation.
With February being the designated month for the collective to focus on Love, do that! Focus on Self-love, Sisterly-love, Passionate-love, Compassionate-love and of course Black-love!
Allow love to be your compass towards peace. Gravitate toward those people, places and feelings that provide you with genuine fulfillment, while saying No to those things that leave you feeling confused and depleted.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t work on things that you find challenging; I simply suggest you find a mentor or coach to help you get a handle on those things.
Now that you understand the empowerment in your No, let’s focus on a few things that you can say Yes to that will hopefully add peace to your life through expressive love toward self and others.
Consider trying a few of the activities listed below to help empower you toward self-preservation & mental rejuvenation:
- Sisterly Love: Reach out to a few of your good girlfriends and let them know that you appreciate having them in your life. If you didn’t know Galentine’s Day (2/13/22) is right around the corner. This day is the unofficial day that is set aside for you and your girls to get together and chop it up. Since Galentine’s Day is the same as Superbowl Sunday this year, slip away for some girl time. You can do a virtual or in-person brunch or afternoon gathering or drop a cute card in the mail. I’m sure they will appreciate the thought.
- Black Love: It’s Black History Month All Year but it’s officially recognized during the month of February. Hopefully you’re educated on Civil Rights History, Slavery Emancipation and well-known Black Inventors and Innovators. I challenge you to embrace a different perspective this time around. Take a few minutes to read or listen to: The 1619 Project: Born on the Water by Nikole Hannah-Jones and Renee Watson. I’m even sharing my Audible link with you to make it easy. This quick read is told in a series of poems that create a narrative; the story opens with a young Black girl given a school assignment to trace her ancestry. Despondent, she tells her grandmother about her shame at being unable to complete the assignment. Grandma then tells the story of their ancestors. Refreshingly, that story starts pre-enslavement, in West Central Africa: “Their story does not begin / with whips and chains. / They had a home, a place, a land, / a beginning. / … / Before they were enslaved, they were / free.” Several spreads are dedicated to celebrating the ancestors’ language, skilled hands, sharp minds, joyful hearts, and amazing dancing. https://www.audible.com/pd/The-1619-Project-Audiobook/0593459989?action_code=ASSGB149080119000H&share_location=pdp&shareTest=TestShare
- Compassionate Love: Show love by doing something for others. Visit DoSomething.org for service ideas.
- Passionate Love: I’m not one for broadcasting my love life on social media but I wholeheartedly believe in making sure my partner feels validated. Do something meaningful for the one you love. Make that man feel special! Put that woman first! (LOL!) Do whatever you gotta do to keep the love alive.
- Self-Love: Take time for yourself. Slow down and do (or not do) all the things you love. Listen to your body and give it what it needs. A few examples of things that you can do for self-care are Spiritual Baths, Healing Rituals, or spending time with friends. Whatever you choose, make sure it’s something you can enjoy.
The activities listed above should get you well on your way to feeling rejuvenated and peaceful.
When you’re ready to tackle those challenges mentioned earlier, fill out the contact form below and I’ll help you work through it.
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“Black Women live, create and build with the future in mind, because the present has no place for us. In order to stay alive, we have to imagine ourselves in a future where we not only survive but thrive. A place where we are understood. A place where we still exist. This is a tall order in the world but this is the way we make the present work for us, every day, and it’s the reason I’m most proud of us.” -Shayla Lawson
I have read this quote so many times over the past week and each time is more triggering than the time before . Whether you agree with the quote or not, it is nearly unbearable to know, understand and feel the perspective that is voiced here.
I believe this quote is a great place to start in order to take a deeper look into the “State of Black Women”, more specifically how we cope with life’s daily requirements, how we celebrate our wins and how we respond to the heartbreak of those tough lessons that we have no other choice but to learn.
It has long been said, “black women are so strong”. I would argue the point that many of us are strong because we have to be strong, not because we necessarily want to be. In a world where we are constantly working to make the world a safer place for everyone else but ourselves, we nuture, we advocate, we protest and we support our fair share of people and causes. We do all the things necessary to help others survive. Consequently, we are too overwhelmed and burdened to do the same things for ourselves.
Let’s talk about it.
What are your thoughts about this quote? Do you agree or disagree with this point of view?
I belive many Black Women find their validation in the work they do to help others and in their efforts to solution the world’s problems. Rarely does the message of simply being enough and contributing as our authentic self come into the conversation. Constantly living, creating and building with the future in mind is a huge endeavor to tackle, but that’s how we, Black Women make it. We are forward thinkers. It’s also why we have such a huge problem sticking to a self-care routine. We’re expected to always be ON….on point, on target, on top things….it’s alot!
My vision for Black Women is a world where we are respected for who we are, appreciated for our contributions but also given equal opportunites to rest, to rejuvenate and to love.
One of the core principles of Originis of Peace is “Self-Preservation”. We empower women with the skills and know-how to set boundaries, manage overwhelm and gain clarity around their goals and objectives. Self-Preservation is defined as the act of keeping oneself from destruction or harm, a natural or instintive tendency to act as to preserve one’s own existence.
In a few weeks I’m kicking off my 12 week course entitled; Heal..Recover..Grow to help you GROW through what you GO through.
We will focus on 3 Essential Concepts:
- Heal – Be the heroine of your life, not the victim
- Recover – Own your story; stop running from it
- Grow – Be open to all experiences, understanding that both happiness and sadness have their respective places
All Sessions are virtual. Additional information will be shared later this week.
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When the Call to Action went out to support a sister in the midst of her journey with breast cancer, I felt compelled to respond. It’s not everyday that the opportunity arises to offer support on a personal basis.
Being a breast cancer survivor who’s currently in her 5th year of survival, I understand that everyday choices are a huge part of the recovery process. I decided to gift this beautiful sister with the Planter pictured above in hopes that it would help to boost her mood during these trying times and also add a little peace to her space.
I remember the fear and uncertainty that I felt during my journey, but I also remember the love and acts of kindness that were shown to me during that time. I remember the visits, phone calls and texts. I remember the Banana Pudding Cake from my Sister in Law Lanita and I remember the beautiful Orchid from my Nephew Nicholas.
My hope is that my simple act of kindness will also be remembered as a simple act of love.💖
To this Sister I pray for Peace and Total Healing. ✨
Hi Origins of Peace Family,
How are things going for you? Can you believe that it’s mid-August already? Time surly flies when you’re having fun. I’m doing pretty good. I can honestly say that I have many things to be grateful for, my heart is full with gratitude and love.
I’ve had three family members who contracted COVID-19. Thankfully each has recovered and they’re all doing great. I have to praise God for the 13.6M people globally who’ve recovered and also pay homage to the 774K who’ve succumbed to this virus.
There’s so much to be thankful for but I’m also aware of the continuous angst and anxiety during this challenging time. It can be difficult to hold on to hope and to peace of mind right now, but in all honesty those two tools are what we need in order to make it through. To help maintain my Environmental Wellness, I’ve been super focused on exercising my creative freedom to spruce up my space.
I’ve found my calm through creating unique pieces. I’ve designed flower pots, created Planters, made home décor and I’m currently working on a new line of earrings.
For me it’s the act of developing a product from start and watching it become something excellent that calms my spirit!
I shared a video below to show you how things have been going. Check it out and let me know what you think!
If a carrot can become bacon, you can continue to stay at the house and be the teacher, hair dresser, personal trainer, chef, movie attendant and any other role that you’ve recently taken on.
I know the government has given the green light for some states to open a few “select businesses”…but please don’t do it. It ain’t safe, it ain’t safe, it ain’t safe!
Today’s challenge: Don’t be the test subject, continue to be the jack of all trades…at the house! You’re doing great.
Today’s challenge is to find someone to thank.
Think about your relationships. Is there anyone in particular that you miss having contact with. Is it time to pull out your pin and paper and compose a sweet note of adoration?
Handwritten notes go a long way. Get creative and bless someone with a hand written thank you note today!