“Black Women live, create and build with the future in mind, because the present has no place for us. In order to stay alive, we have to imagine ourselves in a future where we not only survive but thrive. A place where we are understood. A place where we still exist. This is a tall order in the world but this is the way we make the present work for us, every day, and it’s the reason I’m most proud of us.” -Shayla Lawson
I have read this quote so many times over the past week and each time is more triggering than the time before . Whether you agree with the quote or not, it is nearly unbearable to know, understand and feel the perspective that is voiced here.
I believe this quote is a great place to start in order to take a deeper look into the “State of Black Women”, more specifically how we cope with life’s daily requirements, how we celebrate our wins and how we respond to the heartbreak of those tough lessons that we have no other choice but to learn.
It has long been said, “black women are so strong”. I would argue the point that many of us are strong because we have to be strong, not because we necessarily want to be. In a world where we are constantly working to make the world a safer place for everyone else but ourselves, we nuture, we advocate, we protest and we support our fair share of people and causes. We do all the things necessary to help others survive. Consequently, we are too overwhelmed and burdened to do the same things for ourselves.
Let’s talk about it.
What are your thoughts about this quote? Do you agree or disagree with this point of view?
I belive many Black Women find their validation in the work they do to help others and in their efforts to solution the world’s problems. Rarely does the message of simply being enough and contributing as our authentic self come into the conversation. Constantly living, creating and building with the future in mind is a huge endeavor to tackle, but that’s how we, Black Women make it. We are forward thinkers. It’s also why we have such a huge problem sticking to a self-care routine. We’re expected to always be ON….on point, on target, on top things….it’s alot!
My vision for Black Women is a world where we are respected for who we are, appreciated for our contributions but also given equal opportunites to rest, to rejuvenate and to love.
One of the core principles of Originis of Peace is “Self-Preservation”. We empower women with the skills and know-how to set boundaries, manage overwhelm and gain clarity around their goals and objectives. Self-Preservation is defined as the act of keeping oneself from destruction or harm, a natural or instintive tendency to act as to preserve one’s own existence.
In a few weeks I’m kicking off my 12 week course entitled; Heal..Recover..Grow to help you GROW through what you GO through.
We will focus on 3 Essential Concepts:
- Heal – Be the heroine of your life, not the victim
- Recover – Own your story; stop running from it
- Grow – Be open to all experiences, understanding that both happiness and sadness have their respective places
All Sessions are virtual. Additional information will be shared later this week.
Today kicks off Women’s History Month and this time around, at Origins of Peace we’re putting our own spin on things. Normally we would highlight the achievements of innovative women who’ve contributed their brillance to advance society. Of course we acknowledge and honor these courageous woman and their significant advancements, but this year we’re taking a different approach.
During Women’s History Month 2021, we’re challenging ourselves and all women to reclaim their feminity through self-preservation!
It’s time to feel again, to have again and to make time again, to be intentional again! What am I talking about?
It’s time to…… Feel free, feel loved, feel creative, feel beautiful, feel brilliant, have energy, have time, have conversations, have a waistline, make time to date, make time to laugh, make time to love, make time to exercise, make time to shop, make time to read, make time to cuddle, make time to meditate, make time to chill, make time to dress up, be intentional by wearing colors, slow down to appreciate our curves, take a second to nurture our edges, set goals to drink enough water, make time to just be a woman…………
Of course we recognize there are so many more layers to who you are as a woman but for the next 30 days let’s do some of the things we’ve been neglecting.
I’m kicking off the month by sharing this awesome sermon by Sarah Jakes Roberts entitled Girl, Get up! This is a good word so make time to listen
Later this evening join us online for Strength, Courage & Wisdom Book Club. We’re reading Happy Women Live Better. Here’s all you need to get started:
We’re also excited about our Love Boards & Laughs with Girlfriends Online Event coming up on Friday, March 5th! I’m so excited for this one! Here’s the details for you to join in:
We’re creating Love Boards!
We are a little over a week away from our Love Boards & Laughs with Girlfriends event. I’m looking forward to some real, genuine conversation with my girls about love, life and NOT wasting our pretty! Gotta keep it cute!
You should join us! click below for details on how to Register & Pay:
Don’t wait too long to register. There are materials that you will need for the event. Email me with any questions! Originsofpeace@gmail.com
To get us in the mood for our event, check out “Don’t Waste Your Pretty” this Sunday on TV One. This movie is based on a book by one of my all time favorite Authors, Demetria L. Lucas. I’m sure you’ll love it!
Best selling author Valorie Burton unlocks the secret to your personal happiness. She reveals 13 happiness triggers – choices that can boost your joy right now, even in the midst of deadlines, dating, marriage, parenting and squeezing in a workout or girls night out. Throught these happiness triggers, you will learn how to bounce back from stress and adversity faster, enjoy deeper satisfaction in your marriage and friendships, maximize career opportunities and increase your income and fight off illness. We’re kicking things off on March 1st.
Click below to join in.
When the Call to Action went out to support a sister in the midst of her journey with breast cancer, I felt compelled to respond. It’s not everyday that the opportunity arises to offer support on a personal basis.
Being a breast cancer survivor who’s currently in her 5th year of survival, I understand that everyday choices are a huge part of the recovery process. I decided to gift this beautiful sister with the Planter pictured above in hopes that it would help to boost her mood during these trying times and also add a little peace to her space.
I remember the fear and uncertainty that I felt during my journey, but I also remember the love and acts of kindness that were shown to me during that time. I remember the visits, phone calls and texts. I remember the Banana Pudding Cake from my Sister in Law Lanita and I remember the beautiful Orchid from my Nephew Nicholas.
My hope is that my simple act of kindness will also be remembered as a simple act of love.💖
To this Sister I pray for Peace and Total Healing. ✨
This year has certainly come with a lot of surprises. I’ve seen memes circulating around the internet joking about how we all stayed up to welcome in the New Year, celebrated its arrival and in turn were met with numerous challenges, surprises and obstacles.
In the midst of these challenges, I’ve celebrated a few milestones. First I celebrated the purchase of a new home. This makes my second one so I consider myself a semi-expert in this area.
Second, I celebrated five years being cancer free which is a huge accomplishment. If I had 10,000 tongues, there’s no way possible that I could thank God enough for bringing me through.
I also celebrated five years post-divorce, which in my book is amazing. If anyone out there has ever experienced divorce, you know that it can be awful. Mine was, but as most wise folks will tell you, “this too shall pass” and in my case it did!
So at the top of 2020, I told myself this was my year to jump back in to dating and all things associated with it. I chose to take a hiatus on dating and relationships because, I needed to completely heal from past hurts and insecurities, I wanted to OVERSTAND exactly what I want in a companion and it was essential that I show up as my best self.
So here I am ready to jump back in and face masks and social distancing are a thing!
My next major project is rebuilding my dating life in this new era. I need answers to all the questions, WHO, WHAT, WHEN, WHERE and HOW??
How do I meet him, where do we go, when is it safe, what do we do and who will it be!
I’m setting my intentions toward love, or at least toward a good time, so stayed tuned as I navigate this journey.
I think I’ll start with one of those prayers Ciara prayed before meeting Russell.
Wish me luck!
Today’s challenge is to find someone to thank.
Think about your relationships. Is there anyone in particular that you miss having contact with. Is it time to pull out your pin and paper and compose a sweet note of adoration?
Handwritten notes go a long way. Get creative and bless someone with a hand written thank you note today!
At the house of course!
Keep it light,
Heeyy Origins of Peace Family!
I pray life has been good to you and good for you! I am slowly getting back into the groove of things after a looonnnnggg holiday hiatus. Real quick, let’s check in, how are you doing?
I know this time of the year can be a bit overwhelming because everyone is attempting to live their best life and construct the perfect Vision Board. It can become a bit much.
I did things a little different this year, as far as creating my Vision Board. I decided to allow my Spirit Needs to be the governing body for all that I manifest this year. That means I’ve chosen 4 Scriptures to guide me in all things Melissa…personal and professional. I have 4 overall objectives to accomplish: 1. Celebrate the good things daily, 2. Maximize my health, 3. Do more of what I love and 4. Grow my business.
I’ve listed several goals under each objective to help me achieve them. I turned my goals into an Action Plan that I visit and review daily. I’ve learned that I need to be more specific in asking for what I want, and Make Accommodations to receive!
I’ve already met my January financial goal for my business!
It’s not enough to have good intentions and an Action Plan. You need a good word to stand on. You need a good scripture or quote that will help you get through the challenging times when things begin to look bleak. I’ve chosen 4 Scriptures that are my building and stumbling blocks for 2020. If I start to stumble I want to rest in the assurance that I am stumbling on a good word – Amen!
Here are my 4 Scriptures. You can feel free to use the same four or find others that will help you Make Accommodations to receive!
- Philippians 4:8 – Whatever is honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, excellent and worthy of praise..think about these things
- 3 John 1:2 – Beloved, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health, as it goes well with your soul.
- Hebrews 1:14 – Are they not all ministering spirits sent out to serve for the sake of those who are to inherit salvation?
- Philippians 4:19 – And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.
I want to hear from you! Have you created a Vision Board for 2020, if so how do you feel about it? Has it been beneficial so fare? If you haven’t created a Vision Board, what’s stopping you? Comment below and tell me what’s on your mind.