I pray you’re day is off to a great start. I’m slowly but surely making my way back to my blog sites and social media pages. I really needed a break. My capacity to process information was exceeded and there was no more room in the inn.
So what happened?
First, my stepfather died. It was unexpected and tragic. I was sad, mad and angry all at the same time. Although I tried my best to be strong and understand that death is a part of life, it became overwhelming. I felt the need to protect the little time I had to myself.
The helicopter crash that Killed Kobe, his daughter Gianna and the other seven beautiful souls further impacted my need to retreat from social media. That story is so heartbreaking.
I’ve been working! Since January 1st I’ve picked up 3 new, paying clients and it feels amazing. I often do things for the sake of helping others but to actually put guidelines in place to reap the financial rewards of a hard days work is completly gratify.
When it comes to social media and the amount of information you can handle, each person is different. Many of my peers jumped on to offer insight and encouragement into the helicopter accident, that’s simply not how God built me or many of us. The truth is the situation is heartbreaking and I needed time to process what occurred. Those of us who’ve lost loved ones can attest to the raw feelings that arise each time a tragedy of this nature occurs.
There are several ways that I could go with this post but I simply want to encourage you to take a break when you need one. You don’t have to always comment or show up. It’s perfectly ok to take time to love on yourself extra hard, especially when tragedy occurs. Always remember, self-care is not selfish, it’s necessary.
I am working with a client who is currently recovering from being a people pleaser. She’s spent many frustrated years trying to live up to the expectations of others by showing up for them when she honestly had nothing left to give. In the end she found out she was never really appreciated. Now I am working with her on an action plan to improve her self-esteem and boost her confidence. I pray you’re never faced with this situation but if you are, I am here to help you.
If you would like to schedule a consultation to discuss what the next chapter of your life looks like both personally and professionally let’s chat!
I pray life has been good to you and good for you! I am slowly getting back into the groove of things after a looonnnnggg holiday hiatus. Real quick, let’s check in, how are you doing?
I know this time of the year can be a bit overwhelming because everyone is attempting to live their best life and construct the perfect Vision Board. It can become a bit much.
I did things a little different this year, as far as creating my Vision Board. I decided to allow my Spirit Needs to be the governing body for all that I manifest this year. That means I’ve chosen 4 Scriptures to guide me in all things Melissa…personal and professional. I have 4 overall objectives to accomplish: 1. Celebrate the good things daily, 2. Maximize my health, 3. Do more of what I love and 4. Grow my business.
I’ve listed several goals under each objective to help me achieve them. I turned my goals into an Action Plan that I visit and review daily. I’ve learned that I need to be more specific in asking for what I want, and Make Accommodationsto receive!
I’ve already met my January financial goal for my business!
It’s not enough to have good intentions and an Action Plan. You need a good word to stand on. You need a good scripture or quote that will help you get through the challenging times when things begin to look bleak. I’ve chosen 4 Scriptures that are my building and stumbling blocks for 2020. If I start to stumble I want to rest in the assurance that I am stumbling on a good word – Amen!
Here are my 4 Scriptures. You can feel free to use the same four or find others that will help you Make Accommodationsto receive!
Philippians 4:8 – Whatever is honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, excellent and worthy of praise..think about these things
3 John 1:2 – Beloved, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health, as it goes well with your soul.
Hebrews 1:14 – Are they not all ministering spirits sent out to serve for the sake of those who are to inherit salvation?
Philippians 4:19 – And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.
I want to hear from you! Have you created a Vision Board for 2020, if so how do you feel about it? Has it been beneficial so fare? If you haven’t created a Vision Board, what’s stopping you? Comment below and tell me what’s on your mind.
One of the hardest things people attempt to do during the holiday season is “attempt to remain positive when tensions are high.
One of the most common reasons this issue occurs is because people place themselves under a tremendous amount of pressure to show up and be present when they are feeling disconnected from friends and loved ones. To alleviate these feelings, the answer isn’t always as simple as saying no to an invitation or failing to show up for a gathering. Oftentimes the people who need your presence are the very ones who aggravate you to no end.
With that being said, I’m here to support you. I want to make sure that your energy is high, your vibe is positive, and you are ready to celebrate with those you love.
I’m providing you with 2 quick and easy to follow tips to protect your energy and remain positive during the holiday season.
Create a Visualization Shield. Visualization Shields are used to block out negative energy while allowing positive energy to flow without restriction. Start by taking a few deep breaths and then get perfectly still. Close your eyes and visualize a colorful, vibrant shield of love. In that shield you have peace, protection and amazing vibrancy. Your shield is your safe place that allows you to be present but protected.
Create a Social Wellness Plan. Create a plan that allows you to engage socially but also respects your personal boundaries. A good plan includes a Mission Statement, Established Goals, Executable Objectives, a Realistic Action Plan and a Sustainability Plan. This comprehensive plan is important for maintaining your Peace.
One of the most impactful ways of managing your Peace is to have a well, developed plan. My latest course, Peace by Designis available at my online school, The Design Academy. You can choose between General, VIP or Platinum Access to choose the best option for your needs.
Being sure of yourself * Acknowledging your strengths & opportunities * Trusting qualified partners to help you make it work * Seeking opportunities to glean wisdom * Being open to continuous improvement
November has been an extremely busy and rewarding month for me. With renewed intention and focus, I am serious about seeing the fruits of my labor manifest.
It’s interesting because I was certainly struggling a few months ago. I couldn’t find the time, energy, focus or resources to strategically grow my business.
Things have definitely change.
I had a meeting with my team (me) and came to the realization that things would never manifest if I did not take the time and make the effort to accomplish my dreams.
I realized that I needed a written, executable plan of action.
That’s simple. There is clarity in the written word and when you have clarity, you can move in confidence.
So, my top tip for turning up your confidence in your personal and professional life is to always have a written plan. PERIOD. Your plan serves as your blueprint to success.
On Black Friday, I am releasing my newest course, Peace By Design. This course will help you get clear about what you want in all areas of your life. I am equipping you with the knowledge and understanding of what it means to set executable goals and to determine who you will need to become in order to achieve those goals. Along with the course, you will receive my signature Herbal Tea Collection which includes Peaceful, Focus & Rejuvenation to help you design your way to peace and clarity.
There will only be 10 bundles available for purchase with all three Herbal Tea Blends. You can make sure you receive your bundle by pre-ordering yours today for $97.00.
One of my top 5 Strengths from Strengths Finder is Connectedness. This means I am certain that things happen for a reason.
It all started in April when @Shermikathelight posted on Instagram about an event that she would be speaking at in October. From that point forward I knew I had to be in attendance. Shermika and I were classmates in Grad. School. We both had aspirations of starting our own businesses after graduation. I watched on social media as Shermika started her company, going door to door marketing her business. I also had a social media front row seat when things took off for her. I watched in amazement as she nurtured her business into a powerful brand. I knew that in order to successfully and intentionally grow my business on my terms, I needed to gain some knowledge and insight from her. I did just that!
Just over a week ago, I jumped on a flight to Atlanta and I attended #werkprayslay. It was absolutely everything that I’ve never imagined. I mean never, ever. This Women’s Empowerment Conference was one for the books. The colors, the lighting, the details, the information, the vendors, the volunteers, the attendees, the speakers, the hostess, the D.J. and the fabulous visionary @Koereyelle made this a life changing event for me. Before I attended, I had no idea that this beautiful community of women business owners existed.
I have a solid plan for my business now. No more taking bits and pieces of information and trying to figure out how it all ties together. Some of the strategies discussed were, how to land Corporate and Government Contracts, how to Slay Procrastination, how to Change Your Mindset and Secure the Bag, how to Be Your Own Publicist, how to use Video to Slay Your Personal Brand, and so much more! I’m telling you, this ain’t even half of it.
As I said in my previous post, I had a chance to thank @ChefAhki for positively impacting my life after a cancer diagnosis. You can find that post by clicking here.
I can safely bet that I was one of the older women at the conference, but I didn’t feel left out. @Koereyelle and her team did a phenomenal job of making it a safe space to learn and be vulnerable. I even swagged and surfed for the first time ever! (that wasn’t a thing when I attended an HBCU)
Why am I telling you all of this??? Because it matters who you are connected to. My connection with @Shermikiathelight through social media exposed me to a whole new world of confident, brilliant and paid Sistas who are out here doing their thang! It matters who you follow and who you’re connected to.
If you are a female business owner, I highly recommend the @WerkPraySlay Conference. I’m sure planning has already begun for 2020. You definitely don’t want to miss it. I know that I won’t miss it!
One of the top traits of a person with Connectedness as a Strength is having confidence in their gifts, but knowing they do not have all the answers. As a reward for my humility, God made room for me in a place that I didn’t even know existed, and it is a place of overflowing resources!🤲🏾
I won a free Website Copy Audit by Word Stylitz to amplify the impact that I have on my ideal client. April Beverley of @baabwriting will definitely get me all the way together.🙌🏾This brilliant lady is out here commanding coins with the power of her words.
If you are a female business owner looking to connect with a like-minded Sista on the move, email me. I would love to join forces and hold one another accountable to do the #werk!
In 2015, after being diagnosed with cancer my life took on a whole new look. I was terrified, unsure of what was ahead and I was stuck. I was stuck in fear and unsure of what to do next. My doctors couldn’t tell me how the disease originated and to this day, I remember hearing those unsettling words, we’re unsure what caused it, could be stress, family history or, environmental or possibly the foods you consume.
I immediately activated heal thyself mode and began researching foods to eat in order to heal my body. I found a lot of information but had no idea what many of the foods were or where to find them. I was 39 years old and had never heard of Jackfruit or Dragon Fruit. Those weren’t common foods in my hood.
I admonished God to give me the information that I needed in order to live. I asked God to make it plain for me. As I scrolled through Instagram one day, I came across this beautiful sista recording her trip to the Farmer’s Market. She was walking through the market naming fruits and vegetables that I had never heard of. At the end of the video she said, “we’re heading to Whole Foods next.” I had heard of Whole Foods but the closest one was more 30 minutes from my house. I decided to watch the video because if she was going to give me a game plan to live, I was definitely going to receive it.
I later found out that this beautiful soul was a famous Vegan Chef named Chef Ahki. Because of her willingness to serve I gained the ability to eat again with confidence and take responsibility for my healing. Shopping at Whole Foods wasn’t an option at the time but I was encouraged because Earthfare was constructing a store within close vicinity to me. I was pleased to accept a part-time job there. It was an amazing experience because I learned additional information about the foods that I needed to eat, I could talk to my customers to find out the best way to prepare meals and not to mention the nice employee discount coupled with the Reward Points. As time passed my mindset improved and I regained my confidence.
Recently I thanked Chef Ahki in person for helping me. I am so thankful that she is willing to share herself with the world so that people like me who find themselves facing challenges we aren’t equipped to handle can gain the knowledge, encouragement and amazing insight to put up one hell of a fight. She got me back in the game y’all!
I am extremely grateful to be a cancer survivor and I am thankful for life. There is still so much work to be done with cancer research and prevention. Within a year’s time I’ve lost a close friend and two uncles to this horrible disease.
If you ever find yourself in a situation that tests your faith and understanding, simply stop what you are doing, take a deep breath, breathe out slowly and ask God to make it plain.
We’re all standing in the gap for one another on any given day. I am thankful to Chef Ahki for being available in my time of need.
Are you ready to take your position and stand in the gap for the next person, or is there someone you would like to thank for being open, willing and transparent with their calling and information?
Do you need God to make a few things plain for you? It all starts with a change of heart and a made up mind. Follow me next week as I discuss the Power of Intention and the importance of having a written plan.
Do you Journal? If not, what’s holding you back and if you do, what keeps you going?
A lot of people journal to release emotion and organize their feelings. To be honest, we’re all out here experiencing about 27 emotions daily. That is quite a ride and it’s tough to manage it all. So, what we’re doing is taking the emotion adding to it our daily responsibilities plus the needs and expectations from others and then attempting to get through the day without a method to release. This is the perfect formula for a mental breakdown.
I get it, we want to appear like we have our stuff together with little resistance, add to that this whole self-care trend of “don’t kill my vibe, “don’t interrupt my peace” and “don’t bother me with that”, this leaves us feeling obligated to hold in our emotions.
I’ve found journaling to be a helpful outlet. During those times when I am overflowing with emotions, both positive and negative, journaling helps me to reflect on events, organize my thoughts, release some pinned up energy and even generate solutions. It’s one of the many tools that can be used to re-direct your energy.
There’s another benefit of journaling that very few people notice. Journaling helps you to identify trends. If you journal often and notice a trend of negative or low-energy words and phrases, it’s safe to say you are probably suffering with Imposter Syndrome, self-sabotage and maybe even low self-esteem. If this is you, it’s time for a change in perspective.
I deal with those feelings too. I doubt my abilities, second guess my capabilities and I will overthink a scenario to the very extreme. It’s quite exhausting but I’ve figured out how to manage those feelings.
If you’ve been a member of the Origins of Peace community for any amount of time, you know that our #1 goal is to empower you to get out here and Impress Yourself. There are two reasons why this is important:
If you don’t impress yourself, no one else will ever stand a chance of impressing you. This is important for business deals, relationships, money goals, all of that. You must set a standard and stick to it. Example, if you want to be in a loving relationship, you must first love yourself. Impress yourself by doing things you enjoy and going to places that make you happy. This produces impression and excitement. It’s mentally stimulating, and it gets you into the habit of Impressing Yourself so that you will know when others are meeting and exceeding your expectations!
A whole lot of time is spent impressing other folks. You impress your boss when you show up for work and do an exceptional job, you impress your kids by showing up for them daily. It’s time to Impress Yourself!
For the month of November, I am challenging you to use journaling as a tool to change your communication message to yourself! There are 30 days in November. I am giving you 1 word each day to use as a prompt. You will reflect on how the word shows up in your life on that day and compose a journal entry. Your entry can be written or a short video that you keep on your phone. The words that I provide to you should evoke feelings of happiness, bravery, calmness, rejuvenation and friendliness.
I would love to know how this challenge goes for you. You can find me on both IG and Facebook at Origins of Peace to get the word for the day.
You can leave a comment one either platform to get the dialogue started.
Oh yea, if you’re not on my email list, you should be. Our next gratitude offering winner will be announced on Monday, November 4th. You must be on the list to get included in the drawing! Visit www.melissaarivers.com to sign up. You can see the prize for Monday’s drawing on my IG page.
Sunday’s are the perfect day to gain perspective and gather inspiration for the work week ahead. It doesn’t matter if you’re an entrepreneur or if you work for someone else, everybody needs a boost of perspective and inspiration. Sometimes it can be difficult to navigate through the noise of social media, the promises of the next best personal development tool and through your own self-limiting thoughts. I like to use my Sunday’s as a day to unwind and replenish on a simplistic level. If I am not attending Church on a Sunday, you will very likely find me in my pajamas all day either reading a book, watching television, hanging out with family or doing absolutely nothing. If you’re a regular follower of my site, you are familiar with my latest blog post, Remember When. In this post I discuss three practices individuals can implement into their everyday routine to live happier.
I think it’s safe to say that everyone of us is having a human experience, whether personally or professionally. In this professional extension to the original post I am providing practical tips about how these same practices can be used to increase productivity and engage your employees on a deeper level. First, click the link above to read Remember When.
Now that you’re all caught up, let’s analyze the three principals discussed in the post:
living a life of simplicity
being patient with yourself and others
extending compassion as often as possible
As an employer, you have an opportunity to elevate your employees experience of work by adding simplicity to your Operations Model. One way to achieve this is to utilize an HR company to handle things like payroll and benefits. By outsourcing your HR duties, you can offer packages to your employees that have greater value to them and their families.
There are great companies in your local area that are ready to assist you.
Another undervalued practice that should be added to your Ops. Model is patience. Having patience with yourself and others can go a long way in business. Think about it like this, your employees each have different strengths and personalities. Some will be introverts; others will be extroverts and then there’s the employee that exhibits both personality types. What’s an employer to do? First, be patient with yourself and know that you will never construct the perfect work environment, there will always be a new study to show the next trendy thing in Employee Engagement. Then, incorporate elements of both personality styles into your business model. Could social events be accompanied by flexible work schedules and work from home options to satisfy both personalities? Could your introvert and extrovert team up to tackle the next huge assignment and play on the strengths of one another? However, you manifest it, practice patience. Oftentimes employees have no idea what it will take for them to truly be happy at work.
The last practice that I want to talk about is compassion. For the purposes of our discussion we will define compassion as being thoughtful and decent with a willingness to help others.
A large part of the population entered the workforce out of desperate necessity and in doing so are placed in positions that do not allow them to have creative freedom. Think about it this way. As a human being, we all know that we need resources such as finances and opportunity in order to survive. When your employee shows up to work each day, they already know what is expected of them, but there’s this underlying element of dissatisfaction that might exist and keep them from performing their best work. Take for instance a young woman who is raising her children on her own due to life circumstances. She accepted a position as a Customer Service Agent, not because her dream is to answer the phone all day, but because she needs a means to provide for her children. She needs resources. As an employer, what if you extended compassion to this employee by offering personal and professional development. What if her goal is to move into management but she has no clue how to acquire the skills that she needs? Being a decent and thoughtful employer allows you to show compassion through teaching and mentoring and receive a highly engaged employee who brags about the company that she works for. It’s a WIN -WIN situation.
One of the services that I offer at Origins of Peace is contracting with local, Small Businesses to offer Goal Setting and Vision Illumination Workshops to their employees for both personal and professional growth. In this hand on, interactive workshop we create real life Goals, craft Vision Statements, construct a Personal Impact Map, develop Action Plans and design Vision Boards. This workshop is great for Team Building and the perfect way to demonstrate your compassion for your employees.
Click the link below to schedule your session or for additional information send email inquiries to email@example.com.
Through curriculum and creativity, we assist individuals with achieving Mental Clarity, practicing Self-Preservation, valuing Personal Development and Prioritizing Service to Others in their personal and professional lives.
Can you remember the last time that you were excited by the ordinary? I’m talking about those simple pleasures that we often taken for granted like nature, peace, love and even silence. Oftentimes we find ourselves caught up in acquiring more, achieving more and constantly looking for the next promotion, elevation or fancy purchase that we believe will help us to find happiness.
This past weekend, I had the pleasure of watching my grandbaby experience excitement from being able to play with a lid. As I watched her face glow with amusement, I could only think about how easy it is to forget about the simple things that once provided us with joy.
“I have three things to teach: simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures.” `Lao Tzu
Today I am sharing 3 tips about simplicity, patience and compassion that may help you live a happier life.
Living a life of simplicity will help you focus on what is important. Let me first start by saying that simplicity looks different for everyone and only you can decide what simplicity looks like for you. Personally I enjoy things with low or no maintenance, little fuss and very little worry. I normally spend more time, money and energy researching a product or service before making a purchase to alleviate or reduce the amount of stress that comes with a lot of wear and tear. Because I am a person who experiences anxiety when things are out of order, I attempt to maintain as much order as possible by keeping it simple.
Be patient with yourself and others. Patience is important because it helps you build empathy for others and accept people for who they are. That last statement is so true but please understand that having patience with yourself is priority number one because it helps you become more tolerant of the different stages of life that you will experience. There will come a time when you feel inadequate. Instead of getting discouraged and beating yourself up remember to exercise patience!
Extend compassion as often as possible. Have you ever found yourself saying, “it’s always something,” or “why can’t I ever catch a break?” The people around you are saying the same statements to themselves. Be kind and extend compassion to the next person because everyone is experiencing life and sometimes life can be tough.
Fill your life with simplicity, patience and compassion to not only live happier but also to live healthier. Incorporating these tips can reduce your stress level and boost your immune system.
In my last post I challenged you to make a list of the people, places, things and experiences that add peace to your life. If you’re not familiar, catch up by reading
Now that you have your list, use the following scale to rank the level of peace each item adds:
1-not much peace
2- moderate amount of peace
To elevate your Peace Factor spend more time focusing on the items ranked with a 3, determine if items ranked with a 2 can be elevated to a three and consider what changes should be made to remove or redefine items ranked with a 1.